The Starbucks Effect
Yes, @Boozy Barista:”Peacocking” (as that “Alpha” wannabe PUA term) is what led me to this article. This effect is why “Alpha”-wannabe bloggers write incessantly and summarily (and it’s always affiliate marketing somewhere along the chain) about how great (non-existent) “Alphas” are.
When we order a fancy drink at Starbucks (or some fancier coffee house) with funny language, we believe we are sophisticated connoisseurs. But when others do the exact same thing, we just see them as annoying poseurs.
But we don’t just believe we are hot stuff when we order at Starbucks, we also believe that other people will think we are hot stuff. This “self-serving” bias can be dangerous.
Across domains, people believe their dates will be won over by their charm, entrepreneurs believe investors will be won over by their ideas, and “connoisseurs” believe everyone will be won over by their “sophistication.”
It’s one thing to believe you are great, but it’s another thing to project your grand self-perceptions on the others’ perceptions of you. This is when biases can start to multiply and problems can go so awry. While this may not lead to tragic…
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